10 Facts About Adolescence – Parent Connections (2022)

Teenagers were asked by the government to socially distance themselves from friends, meaning they aretrappedat home with parents and siblings.Can you see theeye rolls? How many parents are quoting the proverbial? Ifyou keep rolling your eyes, they’ll get stuck.

This pandemic has brought about new challenges to all, so for the parents quarantined with adolescents, this post is for you. Here are 10 facts about adolescence to help parents survive the at-home quarantine. Because let’s be honest, a small part of us LOVES having our teenagers home.

1. They are literally missing parts of their brain.

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No, Seriously. We aren’t talking zombie-movie either.

Adolescents have a part of the brain, the frontal lobe, that doesn’t fly at max capacity until around 25. It’s the part that helpspeople make logical, good decisions. Think go-cart without a fully developed brake.

So when they make the[what-in-the-world-were-you-thinking]decision to write on furniture with a Sharpie or postTHATpost, breathe, set appropriate boundaries, and remember their brain is in a full-blown developmental phase.

2. Phenomenal Cosmic Powers! Itty Bitty Living Space!

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If only the Genie fromAladdinunderstood the power of the amygdala.

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The drama around teenagers is thick, and the majority of it stems from a small, almond-shaped part of the brain called the amygdala. Where the logical part of the brain is running on minimum capacity, the emotional part of the brain is at the max.

This developmental stage is why they change emotions like a runway model for Fashion Week in New York City. And if you aretrapped, I mean, collectively gathering as a family to social distance yourselves, this situation can be quite combustible.

When the going gets GOING, calmly communicate, you will step away with an intent to return. By giving yourself space to cool off, you give them time too. Conversations aren’t productive when both parties operate like they are a 16-shot firework on the 4th of July.

3. Sleeping Beauty has nothing on these teenagers.

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So misunderstood, they are. Teenagers need sleep, like serious sleep. If they go to bed at 9 and sleep until 9, they’re not lazy; they are growing. Sleep is as healthy as those squash noodles you try to pass off as spaghetti.

The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends 8 to 10 hours of sleep for adolescence. So hey, this quarantine thing is the perfect time to let them get the developmentally appropriate sleep they need.

4. They have more opinions than a politician in election season.

The time will soon arrive for the baby bird to leave the nest, and one of the ways life prepares them is to develop their ideas, judgments, and conclusions.

Sure they once clung to your every word, but now they must figure out for themselves whattheythink about education, faith, global warming, and the Star Wars Trilogy.

Give them a little breathing room and see what beauty may emerge. Ask for opinions on school cancellations, social distancing, NBA 2K’s celebrity games, and Charli D’Amelio.

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5. Teenagers rotate interests, relationships, and styles faster than Mystique in X-Men.

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Adolescents have one foot in adulthood and one foot in childhood. For them, it is like playing the ball game of life with one foot in a high heel and the other one in a cleat. Just plain awkward for almost a decade. Ugh.

Their brain is growing.[The fancy word is neuroplasticity meaning their brain is under construction.]So teenagers are way more open and willing to try new things, which is pretty remarkable when you see positive possibilities.

So when they bounce from their favorite food being chicken nuggets to sushi wrapped in an organic, grass-fed[pretty sure that isn’t a thing]seaweed, just roll with it. Get it?

Within a few months, they might be vegan, keto, vegetarian, or carnivore. Who knows?!?

6. Friends are EVERYTHING!!!

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Think about the top teen novels and movies. Does the protagonist usually save the world with their family? Nope. Keep that storyline for the kids’ edition,The Incredibles. When it comes to teenagers, they save the world with their friends!

Friends are a big deal to the teenager, which is developmentally appropriate. They need to start making the transition into adulthood[remember the high heel and cleat?],and investing in friendships is how they go about accomplishing that task.

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Depending upon their personality type, they may have 1-2 sincere, close friends, or 15 besties. Either way, the quarantine has rocked their “friend” world. Sure they are digital natives and live so much of their life online, but they still get in plenty of social interaction with school and extra-curricular activities.

Offer empathy and encourage them to keep connecting online, especially during the quarantine. It is healthy for the soul.

7. Living with a teenager is like living with a bomb dog. They find what you hide.

Adolescents seem to have a sixth sense. Based on the fact their brain is under construction, they use this superpower to survive the ever-so-infamous social pecking order at school, but they also use this at home to learn the lay of the land.

As teenagers gather data at a rapid speed to understand how the world works, they also watch how parents live their lives. In other words, they can spot a fake quicker than Anna Wintour, so keep it real[developmentally appropriate, of course]about life. They can be way more graceful than you think.

8. Find a happy place! Find a happy place!

Hmmm…whose Darla fromFinding Nemo?!? Parents or teenagers?

This generation is the first group of adolescents to grow up entirely in the digital age. Inundated with social media, they see lives presented through a rose-colored filter.[Disney anyone? Is it really the most magical place on earth with two hour waits and being run over by stressed-out stroller dads?]

Our teenagers live in a society laced with seemingly perfect, Insta-ready peers.

Their generation may not be drafted to war with guns, but research has yet to be completed on how social media and the digital age is affecting their minds. They, too, fight a war…it’s just a war of the mind.

So check in on their socials, on them. Ask questions and pay[casual]attention as they scroll. Then pray. Ask questions, then pray some more.

9. The “H” word every teenage parent fears: Hacked. Ok, well, second: Hormones.

Puberty ushers in testosterone and estrogen, like a coupon lady on Black Friday, and, at the same time, their bodies prepare for… I’ll let you fill in the blank on that one.

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Those hormones are healthy, God-given, and developmentally appropriate, so no place for shame. But while they are transforming quicker than Optimus Prime, the hormones affect their moods and emotions.

It’s like Baby Jack-Jack has a grown man’s body and can talk. So while you are in tight quarters with this kaleidoscope of a human being, offer yourself some grace and your teenager. Define appropriate guidelines and be consistent. This season too, shall pass.

10. Knowing is Half the Battle.

Who knew G.I. Joe was spouting such wisdom in the ’80s?

Teenagers have a brain that is evolving like a chia-pet, which means they got a whole lot going inside that body of theirs. While you may reminisce about the days of Dora and Diego, your son or daughter may be wondering what is happening to me!?![My guess is you might be too.]

When the time is right[and timing is everything with teenagers], drop a spoonful of adolescence education their way, but just a spoonful. A bite of dark chocolate a day can be healthy for your heart, but a candy bar a day, well, you get it.

If your teenager understands even a fraction of what is going on in their brain, it can create opportunities for empathy, confidence, and hope.

You’ve Got This

I don’t know what lies ahead, and all we have is today, so I hope this piece helps you connect to your teenager at this moment. I hope these 10 facts about adolescence help you, my fellow parents, not just survive but thrive during the quarantine.

These adolescents are already in a different season of life, but now it is coupled with a front-row seat to living history- the COVID-19 Pandemic of 2020. They need a consistent, unconditional, grace-filled, flexible-on-when-to-show-it love.

Who better to offer it than you?

You’ve got this!

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Cheering you on,

Elisabeth Lee

P.S. This list is provided from the perspective of my work and research with teenagers for over fifteen years. I am also a mom to a teenager and tween. It’s designed to give encouragement and general advice. It’s not intended to be a comprehensive, professional guide. For those folks, check out:

Elisabeth Lee is the Content Director for Ministry to Parents and has more than twenty-four years of ministry experience, including students, sports, women, and Bible study conferences. 

FAQs

How do parents influence adolescent development? ›

Parents lead by example: By the beliefs they follow and behaviors they model, they encourage imitation. Parents teach by instruction: By knowledge and skills they impart, they instill learning. Parents inform by self-disclosure: By personal history they share, they give lessons from their own life experience.

What is the role of parents in adolescence life? ›

As a parent, you influence your child's basic values, like religious values, and issues related to their future, like educational choices. And the stronger your relationship with your child, the more influence you'll have, because your child will be more likely to seek your guidance and value your opinion and support.

What is a fact about adolescence? ›

During adolescence the body usually experiences a growth spurt, which is a time of very rapid growth in height and weight. Puberty, which also happens during adolescence, is the time period of maturation where sexual organs mature. Rapid changes in the body can be exciting, scary, and/or confusing.

How does the family influence the adolescent? ›

Your family can build and support your child's confidence, resilience, optimism and identity. When your family sets rules, boundaries and standards of behaviour, you give your child a sense of consistency, predictability, safety and belonging.

Which parent has the most influence on a child? ›

Mothers Remain the Dominant Influence

The most recent numbers show 28% of adult children saying their father was the more influential parent, compared to 22% in 1951. Even so, both in 1951 and presently, Americans continue to be more likely to say that mothers were the dominant influence in their lives.

What is the parental influence? ›

Parental influence is defined as any opinion, attitude, or action (other than direct tutoring) that somehow shapes or molds the child's reading attitudes. Involvement is defined as any direct tutorial help the child receives with his or her reading.

What are the 10 responsibilities of a parent? ›

These include:
  • to protect your child from harm.
  • to provide your child with food, clothing and a place to live.
  • to financially support your child.
  • to provide safety, supervision and control.
  • to provide medical care.
  • to provide an education.
22 Sept 2020

What are the 5 characteristics of adolescence? ›

The five leading characteristics of adolescence are biological growth and development, an undefined status, increased decision making, increased pressures, and the search for self.

How should parents deal with teenagers? ›

Let's explore these 15 tips for how to handle teenagers more effectively:
  • Set rules and boundaries together with your teen. ...
  • Communicate like a parent and a friend. ...
  • Spend quality time together. ...
  • Avoid talking down to your teen. ...
  • Let your teen experience the consequences of his/her actions. ...
  • Focus on the things that matter.
4 Dec 2021

What are the 3 major areas of development in adolescence? ›

There are three main physical changes that come with adolescence: The growth spurt (an early sign of maturation); Primary sex characteristics (changes in the organs directly related to reproduction); Secondary sex characteristics (bodily signs of sexual maturity that do not directly involve reproductive organs)

What are the 3 stages of adolescence? ›

Adolescence undergoes three primary developmental stages of adolescence.
  • Early adolescence – Occurs between the age of 10 and 13 years.
  • Middle adolescence – Occurs between the age of 14 and 17 years.
  • Late adolescence – Occurs between the age of 18 and 19 years. This stage is also called young adulthood.

How do relationships with parents and peers change in adolescence? ›

Family relationships are often reorganized during puberty. Teens want more independence and more emotional distance between them and their parents. A teen's focus often shifts to social interactions and friendships. This includes same-gender friends, same-gender groups of friends, and cross-gender groups of friends.

Why is the home important to the adolescent? ›

Young people still require stability in a home environment, and a secure emotional base from which to explore and experience the world. This also provides them with somewhere to come back to for reassurance, support and unconditional love in tough times.

What causes conflict between parents and adolescent? ›

The source of conflict between adolescents and their parents is ordinary, routine family life (Montemayor 1983 ). These concerns may include home responsibilities and privileges, social life and friendships, disobedience, and intra-family relationships (Holmbeck et al. 1995;Montemayor 1983). ...

Which parent is most important? ›

A child does need both the parents to grow up, at different stages of his life, but even in an unfortunate case of having a single parent; he/she would always prefer their mother over father. So I come to a conclusion, that mothers are most definitely the more important figure in the raising of a family.

Who influence teenagers the most? ›

5 Powerful Influencers In a Teenager's Life
  • 1) Your friends/Your social circle. Imagine that you are watching your all time favourite movie. ...
  • 2) Parents. ...
  • 3) Celebrities/ Movies. ...
  • 4) Technology. ...
  • 5) Social media/Instant messaging (texting)

What are teens most influenced by? ›

It's always worth remembering that media – good and bad – is just one of several influences on teenage behaviour and attitudes. Other influences include family, friends and peers, cultural background and more. Often these influences can be more powerful than media influence.

Are parents the biggest influence on children? ›

Parents are the #1 influence in their children's lives. Parents don't always believe this – in a Parents Empowered survey, parents placed themselves last in the line-up of influences on their children – after friends, teachers and media.

Do parents affect child behavior? ›

The way parents interact with their child has a significant effect on the child's behavior, and can have an impact on their mental health as well. Parenting styles have a huge effect on how children behave.

Why is parental influence important? ›

Research from the National Coalition for Parent Involvement in Education shares that “no matter their income or background, students with involved parents are more likely to have higher grades and test scores, attend school regularly, have better social skills, show improved behavior and adapt well to school.”

What are the 7 duties and responsibilities of parents? ›

7 Parental Responsibilities
  • Fulfill Basic Needs. Home: Parents should provide a safe, abuse-free environment where your child feels protected. ...
  • Support Every Possible Way. ...
  • Teach Moral Values. ...
  • Protect The Child. ...
  • Respect The Child. ...
  • Teach Them Discipline. ...
  • Spend Time Together.

What are the 10 rights of a child? ›

What are the rights of a child in India
  • Right to equality. ...
  • Right against discrimination. ...
  • Right to freedom of expression. ...
  • Right to life. ...
  • Right to education. ...
  • Right to being protected from trafficking and forced into labour. ...
  • Right to be protected from hazardous employment. ...
  • Right to be protected against abuse.
18 Dec 2021

What are the 3 F's of positive parenting? ›

Effective parenting involves effective discipline, and there are three f's that make it easy to remember, and they are firm, fair, and friendly.

What are the 8 behavioral traits of teenager? ›

Typical Teen Behavior
  • Struggle with their identity – for instance, obsessing over their appearance.
  • Feel awkward about their changing bodies.
  • Switch between being overconfident and having poor self-esteem.
  • Follow friends' examples in clothing and activities.
  • Find fault with their parents.
5 Jun 2020

What is adolescence simple words? ›

Definition of adolescence

1 : the period of life when a child develops into an adult : the period from puberty to maturity terminating legally at the age of majority (see majority sense 2a) He struggled through his adolescence.

What are adolescent challenges? ›

The most common mental health disorders observed during adolescence are anxiety and mood disorders. Social phobias and panic disorders are common among this age group. Girls may tend to have more vulnerability to develop depressive disorders than boys (3). Teenagers may have self-esteem or confidence issues.

What do teenagers need from parents? ›

Young people going through the process of adolescence need what they have always needed from their parents. They want your love, your support, your encouragement, your nurture, acceptance and attention.

Why is my 13 year old daughter so angry? ›

Other teens experience intense anger as a symptom of a mental health issue, traumatizing life experience, or simply from the stress and pressures of adolescence. Some of these common triggers of severe anger in teens include: Low self-esteem. Victim of bullying or persistent & unhealthy peer pressure.

What is positive parenting style? ›

What Is Positive Parenting? Positive parenting is a parenting principle that assumes children are born good and with the desire to do the right thing. It emphasizes the importance of mutual respect and using positive ways to discipline.

Is a 12 year old a teenager? ›

Your son won't technically be a teenager for another year, but 12 is when the big transitions begin. That's why kids this age are called preteens or tweens. Their world is getting bigger on every level: physical, mental, emotional and social.

What should a 14 year old be able to do? ›

With that in mind, here are ten things your kids should be doing on their own by the time they're teenagers.
  • Wash their own laundry. ...
  • Earn and manage money. ...
  • Prepare meals. ...
  • Manage and complete their school work. ...
  • Politely and respectfully talk to adults. ...
  • How to deal with an emergency. ...
  • Navigate nearby areas.
23 Mar 2017

Is 13 year old a teenager? ›

Most 13-year-old teens are dealing with the emotional and physical changes that accompany puberty, so it's normal for your teen to feel uncertain, moody, sensitive, and self-conscious at times. During this time, it becomes more important than ever to fit in with peers.

At what age is a child? ›

The United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child defines child as, "A human being below the age of 18 years unless under the law applicable to the child, majority is attained earlier.” This is ratified by 192 of 194 member countries.

What age does adolescence end? ›

Adolescence begins with the onset of physiologically normal puberty, and ends when an adult identity and behaviour are accepted. This period of development corresponds roughly to the period between the ages of 10 and 19 years, which is consistent with the World Health Organization's definition of adolescence.

What age does an adolescent start? ›

Adolescence is the phase of life between childhood and adulthood, from ages 10 to 19.

Why do teenagers forget things? ›

Hormonal changes cause forgetfulness With the surge of brand new hormones, the brain becomes overstimulated with emotions that are often hard to control. As the brain continues to develop throughout adolescence, this development affects function in different parts of the brain, including the prefrontal cortex.

Why do adolescent take risks? ›

Risk-taking increases between childhood and adolescence as a result of changes around the time of puberty in the brain's socio-emotional system leading to increased reward-seeking, especially in the presence of peers, fueled mainly by a dramatic remodeling of the brain's dopaminergic system.

Why do teenagers act out? ›

Other youth who “act out” may be experiencing serious conflicts at home, unmet mental health or special education needs, the loss of a loved one, abuse, maltreatment, and/or other traumas.

How can a teen have a good relationship with parents? ›

Six Things You Can Do to Improve Your Relationship with Your Parents
  1. Take Responsibility for Your Part in Your Family. ...
  2. Learn to Follow Their Advice. ...
  3. Spend Time with Your Parents. ...
  4. Show Love to Your Parents. ...
  5. Seek and Give Forgiveness. ...
  6. Understand Your Parents are God's Tool in Your Life.
25 Sept 2014

How do parents support their child? ›

Loving your child can be as simple as giving them hugs, spending time with them, and listening to their issues seriously every day. Showing these acts of love can trigger the release of feel-good hormones such as oxytocin. These neurochemicals can bring us a deep sense of calm, emotional warmth, and contentment.

Do parent/child relationships change during puberty? ›

Evidence suggests increases in conflict and less warm interactions in relationships between parents and children during puberty. Changes are assumed to be short term, although little longitudinal research has directly addressed the issue of long-lasting effects.

What is the role of parents in adolescence life? ›

As a parent, you influence your child's basic values, like religious values, and issues related to their future, like educational choices. And the stronger your relationship with your child, the more influence you'll have, because your child will be more likely to seek your guidance and value your opinion and support.

What is the role of family in adolescent life? ›

Your family can build and support your child's confidence, resilience, optimism and identity. When your family sets rules, boundaries and standards of behaviour, you give your child a sense of consistency, predictability, safety and belonging.

What is the role of family in shaping the personality of adolescence? ›

As their peer interactions change, their family relationships do as well. However, the family context is very important in regard to adolescent development. The relationship quality between adolescents and their families greatly influence their self-esteem, ability to adjust, and relationships with others.

What do parents and teenagers argue most? ›

Today's teens are no different. Other common arguments include grades, personal appearance, dishonesty, and food. Parents still want their kids to eat more fruits and vegetables, drink less soda, and sit down for family dinners. The more things change, the more they stay the same.

What are the main problems in parents children relationships? ›

These problems include a lack of boundaries, rejection, restrictiveness and overprotection, overindulgence, substance abuse and unrealistic expectations from children. The parent child relationship problem can permeate into multiple aspects of life.

How does parents fighting affect a teenager? ›

Infants, children and adolescents can show signs of disrupted early brain development, sleep disturbance, anxiety, depression, conduct disorder and other serious problems as a result of living with severe or chronic inter-parental conflict.

How changes in family relationships affect adolescent development? ›

Family relationships are often reorganized during puberty. Teens want more independence and more emotional distance between them and their parents. A teen's focus often shifts to social interactions and friendships. This includes same-gender friends, same-gender groups of friends, and cross-gender groups of friends.

Do peers or parents have more of an influence on adolescent development? ›

Among other conclusions, peers are more likely to influence adolescents through modeling, while parental influence is more strongly exerted through norms. *This paper is one of a series reporting research on the expectations and behaviors of adoles- cents.

Are parents the biggest influence on children? ›

Parents are the #1 influence in their children's lives. Parents don't always believe this – in a Parents Empowered survey, parents placed themselves last in the line-up of influences on their children – after friends, teachers and media.

Do parents influence child's personality? ›

The results suggest that parents may play a significant role in the development of adolescent personality traits that promote competence and personal well-being across the life course.

Do parent adolescent relationships change during adolescence? ›

During adolescence, parent–child relationships are thought to become more equal, interdependent, and reciprocal 3, changes that co-occur with a temporary decrease in the quality of the relationship and an increase in conflict 4.

What are the four main types of relationships that influence an adolescent? ›

Research shows there are four main types of relationships that influence an adolescent: parents, peers, community, and society.

What causes conflict between parents and adolescent? ›

The source of conflict between adolescents and their parents is ordinary, routine family life (Montemayor 1983 ). These concerns may include home responsibilities and privileges, social life and friendships, disobedience, and intra-family relationships (Holmbeck et al. 1995;Montemayor 1983). ...

Who influence teenagers the most? ›

5 Powerful Influencers In a Teenager's Life
  • 1) Your friends/Your social circle. Imagine that you are watching your all time favourite movie. ...
  • 2) Parents. ...
  • 3) Celebrities/ Movies. ...
  • 4) Technology. ...
  • 5) Social media/Instant messaging (texting)

What kind of support do teenage parents need? ›

Teen parents are at increased risk for dropping out of school, unemployment, poverty, mental health issues, and child care concerns. Ensuring that adolescent parents receive adequate social, emotional, medical, and academic support is essential to the parent and the baby's future.

Why do teens choose friends over family? ›

Teenagers want to hang around their peers because they feel the same anxieties, fears, insecurities, and emotions. Friendships help them understand that they are not alone and what they feel is common and normal.

How do parents influence their child development? ›

In much the same way, parents contribute to children's emerging social competence by teaching them skills—such as self-control, cooperation, and taking the perspective of others—that prepare them to develop and maintain positive relationships with peers and adults.

Which parent is more important mom or dad? ›

In a long-term analysis of 36 international studies of nearly 11,000 parents and children, researchers have found that a father's love contributes as much — and sometimes more — to a child's development as that of a mother, while perceived rejection creates a larger ripple on personality than any other type of ...

What age do kids need parents the most? ›

Formal cultural consensus analysis of responses met criteria for strong agreement that the period for greatest impact of parenting on a child's development occurs at adolescence, at a median age of 12 years.

How do parents affect future relationships? ›

This study suggests that adolescents who grow up in positive family climates with effective parenting are more likely to have healthy romantic relationships as young adults. In addition, adolescents who are more assertive and behave positively with their families also help create a positive family climate.

Do kids end up like their parents? ›

Children, in general, do tend to grow up to be a lot like their parents. Social scientists and genetic researchers have identified many cycles that loop from one generation to the next.

Do your parents shape you? ›

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Of course, our parents do not only negatively shape our personalities, they can also shape them for the better. For example, simply spending time with your parents can help individuals develop better social skills and higher confidence.

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